She was eventually led to a group of women who were going through similar experiences and asking the same questions.
This was Mama Dragons, a Facebook group for women who are members of the LDS Church and whose children or children they know are LGBTQ.
“We were raised to fight for our kids and to nurture our children and to nurture other people’s children,” Blair said. “It’s very natural to fight for these kids; most of us wouldn’t imagine a world where we wouldn’t fight for them.”
Mama Dragons was started by several LDS women from different states who had gay children.
The group had been started only a few weeks before Blair joined. One of the women, who considered herself a Mama Bear, thought her title wasn’t fierce enough and decided they were more like Mama Dragons.
The name stuck.
Since then, the group has become more than just an online support system. Women from all over the world have been able to network with each other, sharing their experiences while standing up for the LGBTQ cause.
The Facebook group now has more than 500 members.
The women have branched out with their support in areas such as raising money for affirmation scholarships and housing children who have nowhere to go. Recently, two boys in the Salt Lake City area were kicked out of their home when they came out as gay.
It was the Mama Dragons who helped find a place for them while the teens figured out what to do next.
“I need to let people know that I’m here for those children that are maybe shunned or unloved or told they’re less than perfect because of this trial in their life,” said Lil Barron, another Mama Dragon. “I want those people to know there are those of us that love unconditionally and when we have to choose between our children and people saying that you have to choose they will lose; our children will always win.”
Barron got involved with Mama Dragons less than a year ago but she has several years of experience knowing the struggles many LGBTQ people face.
From an early age, her own daughter did not like wearing dresses and told her parents she was not a girl.
At the age of 16 she came out as bisexual.
Barron said her daughter went through a hard time growing up in the LDS Church where she was different from the other children.
However, from the beginning, Barron was clear she would love her daughter no matter what her decision was. Her daughter has since been in a 3-year relationship with her girlfriend, now her fiancée.
“I feel so honored and blessed to be a part of this little girl’s journey and to watch her come from where she has,” Barron said. “Watching her become this amazing young woman who gets to have a fulfilling, loving life is something that every parent wishes their children would have.”
A policy change within the LDS church now has brought up new frustrations among many Mama Dragons.
The Associated Press reported these new rules stipulate children of parents in a gay or lesbian relationship — either marriage or living together — can no longer receive a blessing as an infant, be baptized when they are about 8 years old, or serve a mission as young adults unless they disavow the practice of same-sex relationships; turn 18 and are no longer living with gay parents; or get approval from their local leader and the highest leaders at church headquarters in Salt Lake City.
Blair said the news has been rough for the LGBTQ Mormon community.
She said she believes there will be a large exodus from the church because of this.
Blair said many grandmothers in the group have children who are queer and who have children of their own that the grandparents take to church.
“These Mama Dragons are particularly sad because they know now these little grandbabies are not invited to be baptized with their peer group when they turn eight,” Blair said. “So for a lot of those Mama Dragons that will pretty much be the last straw for their own testimonies.”
Mama Dragons on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/953372108027028/
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